Why I’m Done Letting Body Talk Define My Worth - And Starting to Practice Body Neutrality

How to Break Free From Generational Body Judgment and Reclaim Self-Love

I grew up in a culture where commenting on someone’s body was as normal as saying hello. After every family gathering or community event, conversations would center around who lost weight, who gained it, who looked “good,” and who didn’t.

At first, it just seemed like small talk — but over time, those comments started stacking up in my mind like quiet bricks of shame. Even if no one was directly talking about my body, it still felt like a warning:

“Don’t let yourself go. Don’t be the one they talk about next.”

And eventually, I didn’t even need others to say it.

I started saying it to myself.

The Inner Dialogue That Hurts More Than We Realize

When we internalize this kind of body talk, it becomes the lens through which we view ourselves. I found myself constantly judging my body in the mirror, not out of true concern for my health, but from fear — fear of not being accepted, of being criticized, of being talked about.

It’s draining. It’s isolating. And it’s not love.

We were never meant to live like this — obsessing over our appearances, trying to micromanage every curve, line, or “flaw” so we can feel safe in the world. This kind of fear-based thinking starts early. Research shows that the beliefs we form about ourselves before age 7 can stick with us for life. And if you grew up hearing body shaming, diet talk, or the need to “fix” yourself to be lovable — it’s no surprise you’ve felt like you’re always chasing something.

The Truth: You Don’t Need to Change Your Body to Change Your Life

Diet culture loves to disguise itself as wellness. It whispers, “This is for your health,” when really, it’s reinforcing the idea that we’re not worthy until we’re smaller, smoother, or more polished.

But here's the truth: you don’t have to change the way you look to live the life you desire.

Self-love isn't vanity. It’s the foundation for real, sustainable change. Without it, we’re always striving from a place of shame — and shame never leads to peace.

When You’re the One Trying to Break the Cycle & Practice Body Neutrality

What’s even harder? Trying to heal in spaces where body negativity is still the norm.

From casual chats about Botox and nose jobs to constant discussions about diets and weight loss, our culture makes it hard to practice body neutrality, let alone body love.

I used to sit in silence, too afraid to speak up or challenge the conversation. But staying quiet started to feel more harmful than helpful.

Now, I gently speak up when I need to. I say things like:

“Hey, I’m working on practicing body neutrality, so this conversation doesn’t feel supportive for me.”

You’re allowed to protect your peace. If it makes others uncomfortable, that’s okay — sometimes, discomfort leads to growth. And maybe your courage sparks curiosity or healing in someone else, too.

You Deserve to Feel Free

If you're tired of constantly judging yourself, of feeling like you’re never “enough,” or of navigating friendships where body shaming is normalized — you're not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.

You’re just carrying beliefs that were never yours to begin with.

That’s why I created Body and Soul Freedom — a 12-week coaching program designed to help you unlearn the toxic conditioning, reconnect with your body in a loving way, and finally start living from a place of joy, confidence, and soul alignment.

✨ It’s time to stop shrinking and start shining.

Apply now to join Body and Soul Freedom and take the first step toward the self-love and freedom you deserve.